Today is my birthday! Today is my birthday and I am 30! A new decade. A new chapter. I am really excited about it. While I learnt a lot about myself in my 20s, my 30s I suppose I get to use all my wisdom and unleash it on to the world.
I was going to share 30 of my favourite things, but I got to thinking about all the weddings I’ve been to this summer, my own wedding, relationships – both romantic and friendship past, current and future, my new Arbonne business, where I am in life. I have been thinking about all the things I’ve learnt in my 20s. I want to share with you what my 20s taught me, my life lessons.
My gift to you, my wisdom! I put my blood, sweat and tears into this…literally.
- Follow your passion. If you love painting, paint, find a way to incorporate this into your life. You like writing, create a blog!
- Try everything you can. How do you know if you don’t like it until you try it. Who knows it could be your passion, it could be your ticket to happiness.
- Don’t look down on others, you haven’t lived there life. I didn’t ever look down on people, but I will admit, I judged. I didn’t know any better, I was young and dumb and knew nothing about life. Rather than judging, I started talking to people, listening to them. I found that more empowering than being stuck in my own head.
- If you can’t being the guy you’re dating home, that could be a sign. Oh man, I wish I had figured this out sooner… or do I? There were a few who never made it to the front door, this should have been a reg flag. However, at the time I thought it was fun and something to call my own.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. You don’t compare an apple to an orange, so why compare your self to someone else. You can admire someone, but don’t compare yourself. You haven’t lived there life and they haven’t lived yours. No good can come of comparing apples and oranges, there will be anger, disappointment and heartbreak.
- Life is hard, and it never gets much easier. Brutal truth. It doesn’t get easier, you just learn how to deal with it, you learn how to accept it, you learn how to laugh when you should be crying.
- When you think you know it all… You don’t. Thats one of the fun things I’ve learnt, the learning never ends.
- Relationships, all relationships need work. I took a lot of relationship for granted, I thought they would always be there. All need work, some more than others. Though you need to know when it’s not worth it too, another hard lesson.
- You can’t always be right. Not everyone is going to see it your way. Sometimes the best thing you can do for sanity sake, you can shut up and listen, you might learn something!
- Don’t let anyone treat you like you are less. No one has this right, NO ONE! Not even your parents. Period. I had one too many boyfriends who made me feel like I couldn’t do what I wanted, they made me feel that I wasn’t worth it. Those were hard lessons to learn, but ones that I needed to learn. I am one tough Mother now!
- You are not entitled to anything. Nothing is given to you just because you THINK you deserve it. It feels better, taste better, looks better when you earn it.
- Time heals. You may be left with a scar but wonders heal. I remember my Dad telling me this every time I thought my world was ending… sure enough time heals all wounds.
- Decisions can last a life time. Ain’t that the truth. I got a tattoo and I still love it, that was one of the better choices I made in my 20’s. We’ll leave it at that.
- Money doesn’t grow on tree. Shocker! You gotta earn that, work hard and spend it wisely. I think I watched too much Sex and the City because I invested my money in shoes. Oh my beautiful shoes. Then my puppy ate only the left shoe. I was watching my money go to waste. I spend/invest much more wisely now. Though I still have a couple pairs of shoes somewhere.
- Debt will haunt you. Not only haunt you but stock you, constant reminders that a $20 purchase you made on a credit card, it can ruin you for years after. Learn about this thing call ‘interest’ and ‘rates’. I can save you a TON of pain and suffering later in life.
- Happiness. You are the key to your own happiness. You choose to be happy. You choose to be sad and miserable. You can’t blame that one anyone else, even if that person is an asshole. You make your own happiness, the faster you figure that out, the longer you will be happy for.
- Be who you are. I am weird. I like Star Wars, running and I can’t have the radio volume on an odd number, unless its 5. I told you I was weird. Be who you are, if you fake being someone else, you run the risk of hating yourself. Surround yourself with like minded people. This is something I wish I learnt in high school.
- Try it! This was my philosophy. Just try it. As long as it wasn’t drugs or messed with my personal morals, I’d try it. I’d do it again if I liked it.
- It’s not what you said, it’s how you said it. Text and email really go well here.
- Trust your instincts. Enough said.
- Sometimes all you can do is laugh. How many times has something not gone the way you want it to?! Me, to many and the only thing I could do was just laugh at the situation. Fall off a chair laugh. Turned down for a job, laugh. Some one was particularly rude to you, laugh. It is easier to smile than it is to frown and laughing leads to smiling.
- No one looks that good. People on the magazine cover don’t actually look like that, in real life that person doesn’t even look like that. Don’t compare yourself to the magazine cover people, they don’t exist.
- They are called goals, not finish them all in one day. I was so bad for this, I’d set a goal and I would give myself an impossible time frame to complete it. When I didn’t complete it, I would be really hard on myself and then never finish because I would tell myself, ‘I wasn’t good enough’. I know better now and a cool thing I learnt, they are called, long term goals. Fun fact!
I learnt so much more in my 20’s, I became so much more in my 20’s. I became a wife, a mother of 2 beautiful, amazing children. I am starting a new chapter by being home with my kids. I could have shared everything in my life but if I told you everything, you wouldn’t learn it for yourself. Learning is have the fun!
My 20’s were an amazing time. I met lots of people and tossed a lot of people out of my life too. Now I get to enjoy my 30’s with the people I have chosen to stay in my life. I get to fine tune the lessons I learnt in my 20’s.
The more I think about it, the more I see that life is like wine, it get’s better with age.
Here’s to my 30’s, may they be a hell of a ride!