Let’s get a little personal here. What lingerie did you wear it before kids? Do you wear it now? Do you wear it for yourself? Or someone special?
Before I had kid(s), I didn’t really wear lingerie much, if at all. Sure I had the fancy pretty bra and panties that I wore but that was about the extent of it. Now that I’m a Mum, I would say I wear lingerie much more. Here is my theory behind it.
Before I had kids, I had all the time in the world to doll myself up for work, coffee date with a friend (because you could do that) and date night. Whoa baby, I had that luxury of taking my time. Making sure the eye liner was just so and the lipstick was the perfect shade. It made me feel glamours, and everyone should feel glamours now and then.
Before kids, I had time go to a yoga class or the energy to do it at home. I could go for a run. I felt good. I spent time on me.
Lingerie wasn’t really needed because I felt attractive, I felt good and I felt confident.
To me lingerie doesn’t have much if anything to do with sex. It’s about making you feel sexy. Having that confidence to strut your stuff.
After I had kids. I hardly ever wear make up and I find now when I do, people notice. I feel much less attractive. I wear what I call ‘easy’ clothes. Jeans and t-shirt. Presentable and easy. Very little effort goes into my clothes. I’m lucky if my hair gets washed every other day. I have a hair band that has become my best friend. I will gladly take 15 more minutes of sleep, then to get up and put make up on.
I find lingerie is more necessary for me now because it just does something for you both physically and mentally. Physically it holds and moves everything into ‘where it’s suppose to be’ and mentally I feel like a million bucks. I could take over the world. Couldn’t tell you why it makes me feel like this. Maybe it’s because it’s sort of naughty it’s suppose to be a little secret.
It has nothing to do with my husband being more or less attracted to me, because honestly I think now that we have kids together, he is more attracted to me than ever before. He does everything he can to make me feel pretty and beautiful and I appreciate every effort. It’s just me. I don’t feel attractive like I use to so lingerie helps. Anything that helps, I will take it.
Most of the time I feel tired, I’m used as a jungle gym, a towel after the bath, a napkin at any meal time, I am even used as a pillow (though that one I don’t mind because I get snuggles). I wear nice things, they get dirty or ripped. Make up is just another thing to do, but it does make me feel a little glamours.