2 years ago today, I married my best friend, the love of my life, my partner in crime, the man I am going to grow old with. And what a busy 2 years it has been. We’ve traveled parts of Europe. We’ve progressed in our careers. We had a beautiful baby girl. We’ve celebrated our daughters first birthday. I can’t wait to see what the next year has to offer us.
I love Drew more than I did the day that I married him. I am always learning and growing as a person, and in turn this helps strengthen and help our marriage evolve. I appreciate the things Drew does for me. I hope that he knows that or at least sees that I am trying.
In no way am I claiming to be an expert, heck, I’ve only been married for two years, but these are the things that work for us.
- Communication. Without it you will assume the worst. That is human nature. If something is bothering you. Write it down in an email so that you can word it how you want it to sound. I am always worried I’m going to offend Drew (though I have not yet – according to him), so I write it in an email. I have a terrible habit of forgetting to put my filter in, so when I talk, it sounds truly terrible and not what I meant at all
- Date Night. You don’t have to go out, just set aside time for the two of you. Turn off the TV. Put the kids to bed. Leave all your electronic devices in the other room. Turn on some music, pour the wine and see where the evening takes you. I really enjoy the date nights where we have a babysitter and get to leave the house. I find it easier to relax
- Be Silly. Laugher is the best medicine they say. Be goofy. I don’t have a problem being goofy, nor does Drew, so we laugh… a lot.
- Kiss Me Good-night. Drew is a night owl, I am a the early bird. I go to bed much earlier then Drew but he always tucks me in, kisses me good-night.
- Honesty is the best policy. If something is bothering you, say so, even if it’s little. Don’t let it get all balled up into a big stress ball and then you explode. I would really appreciate it if you could take all the dishes to the kitchen when you take yours. Rather than, You never take the dishes, you never sweep the deck, you never… you get the point. You don’t have to be mean about it or defensive.
I have found that marriage isn’t something that just turns out to be a good marriage, it’s something you work at every day. Marriage is a lot like a tree. A seed is planted. Roots start to grow. You tend to the tree, water it, make sure the sunlight gets in. But to see it blossom, you have to continue to love it and support it through the cold winters.
I don’t want to feel like I do 10 years from now, I want this feeling to be 10 times bigger. I don’t want to just love my husband as much as I did on our wedding day, I want to love him more. I want to appreciate him more. I want to find new words to describe the way that I feel about my best friend.
Happy Anniversary My Love. Here is to many more years of our goofy, loving ways.